Mar 4, 2021
The Positive Power of Believing In Yourself.

Felix Duyilemi

“If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.”

Thomas A. Edison.


What have they called you?


·Albert Einstein  was called a good for nothing boy.

·Les Brown was tagged mentally retarded.

·Walt Disney was judged to lack creativity

·Thomas Edison was called a dunce

·Winston Churchill was told he would never amount to anything.

·Billy Graham was told nobody would ever hear of his name.



However, these people succeeded against the predictions of the negative thinking experts. When nobody believed in them, they believed in themselves.


When Steve Harvey was in Junior School, his teacher asked them to write what they would like to become in the future, Steve wrote down that he would like to be on TV.


Instead of encouraging him, his teacher was furious and told him to write something “More realistic.”


Today, Steve Harvey is a premier Comedian, best-selling author and the host of the Steve Harvey Show. If that teacher is still alive today, he might as well bite his tongue each time he tunes his TV set and sees Steve Harvey Live!


He doesn’t matter what anybody have told you or written about you, the only person that can stop you is you. Don’t trade your future away based on the experiences of your past. The truth is nobody can really see your potential until you start using it.


I saw a friend recently – we both graduated from the same University- while talking, he mentioned that he has heard a lot about my books and that he’s been really inspired by my life. I thanked him.


“You see” he said, “While in School, I never really thought much about you- to me you are just like any other ordinary student- until I read one of your books and that changed my perception of you”


The truth is this guy had a wrong perception of me. He didn’t think much of me because he hasn’t seen all of me.


He has only interacted with the “ordinary” part of me so he thought I wasn’t beyond ordinary.


Maybe, your friends, family, or spouse haven’t thought much about you because they have only seen the ‘ordinary’ part of you, it’s time you showed them that there is more to you than what they have seen or known.



You have a great potential to achieve extra-ordinary things in life, if only you believe in yourself.


Take for instance your brain is made of billions and billions of intricate and complex network of neurons and synapses with unlimited capacity to accomplish amazing feat- if only you will put it to task.


Right now, you have an unlimited potential to become a best-selling Author, accomplished Musician, Consummate Entrepreneur, 6-figure public Speaker, Extra-ordinary clergyman, global scientist, international diplomat and so on.


You are simply un-limited. Believe it.

 When you start believing in yourself a whole new world will open to you.

You will draw on your innate potentials that have been buried in the grave of your low self-esteem, insecurity, and fear.


People, resources, and situations will rise up to welcome your new personality. You will welcome challenges like a champion and deal with them with confidence inspired by the awareness of your unlimited potential.


Only you can limit how far you go in life.


  Maybe it’s true you might have grown up with fragile or weak self-esteem based on your childhood experiences.


Maybe you have parents who talked you down or failed to nurture your self-esteem.


Your High School Teacher might have called you names because you failed a simple arithmetic. Or maybe you have certain disability that didn’t make you popular with girls or boys- all this could have negatively impacted your self-esteem.


However, as true as these facts may appear, nothing can damage you permanently if you don’t surrender to it.


There is this mistake many of us make and this is it: the belief that other people are better than us. We tend to have more confidence in others than we have in ourselves.


The truth is nobody is better than you. That doesn’t make you to become arrogant or cocky. You don’t need to be intimated by other people abilities. You have yours.


Maybe you can’t paint like Michelangelo, or write like Shakespeare but there is something that only you can do very well.


You are simply unique and original.


Nobody can do what you have been wired for better than you. That is why you need to have confidence in your own ability. You need to start believing in yourself.


I want you today to write boldly on a sheet of paper now: I BELIEVE IN MYSELF. I CAN DO IT. I HAVE ABILITY TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD! SUCCESS IS IN MY DNA!


Let’s talk: Why do you think many people don’t believe in themselves? Please, leave your thought. Thank you.




Duyilemi A. Felix loves learning, reading and writing. He focuses his energy on learning important life principles and he teaches what he learns through books, seminars, media, churches and in corporate organizations. Reach him via [email protected].

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May 21, 2020
Why Do Extra-ordinary People Live An Ordinary Life?

Why Do Extraordinary People Live Ordinary Life?

I woke up one day thinking about this, “why do extra-ordinary people live an ordinary live?” This question really bothered me. Why do we live below our true potentials? Why do we settle for good enough when we are capable of inspirational living? Why?


These questions descended through the recess of my mind like the Niagara fall. I wanted answer to this major issue. I want to help as many as I can. I believe we are all created by God to live life at its best. We are created to be extra-ordinary. I am convinced of this.


Nobody should live a colourless, purposeless and powerless life. If we know God’s original plans for our lives we will literarily astound ourselves.


I have been a student of personal greatness for more than 17years. I have studied and analyzed several lives. When I see people who have made great differences with their lives, I ask why? When I see people whom seem to be victim in life, I equally ask why? I believe that both success and failure leave clues.



A story is told of a young man who dreamed of playing professional football. In high School he was a star player and won several awards. In his small town, all the children looked up to him, and wanted to be like him.


But most coaches thought he was too small to play in college. All the major Universities turned him down. He was discouraged. He quit playing football, and took a job at a Pizza restaurant.


One night he was delivering pizzas and a ten-year-old boy answered the door. The boy couldn’t believe what he saw. He was star struck. This was the man he was dreaming he would one day become. The boy’s father walked up and the young man gave the father the pizza. The little boy was confused. He looked up at his father and looked at the young man and said, “What are you doing delivering pizzas?”


Those words from the boy lit a fresh fire on the inside of this young man. ‘What am I doing delivering pizzas?’ He asked himself. That summer he trained harder and became bigger, stronger, quicker, and faster.


That fall, he tried another major University and was accepted. He made the team and worked hard until he became a star player. This young man eventually became a star in the NFL living out his dream.


But he said, “It would have never happened if the ten-year-old boy hadn’t asked me, ‘What are you doing selling pizzas?’





It’s my interest in this article to light the fire in you to go for extra-ordinary life you were born to live. Here are my few suggestions:

1.Find Your Purpose.

A fish is programmed to swim.

A bird is programmed to fly.

You are programmed for a purpose.

You may not be good at everything but you are good at something. God created you for something specific. You are customized and wired with peculiarity to solve a particular problem in life. You are SPECIAL. You are UNIQUE. You are DIFFERENT. You are not supposed to go everywhere, you are not supposed to do everything, you are supposed to do SOMETHING you are really really, really designed for.

Find out your calling. Locate your assignment in life and give the world a piece of your good news (to learn more about this, please  order for my great book titled “Wake Up Your Destiny: embracing your personal greatness”)

2.Don’t Allow Fear To Rule your life.

This man laments at the end of his life. This is how he summed up the journey of his life.

Hear him:

“I could have won, if not that I was afraid to try” is a common story.


God knows fear does no good, and in 365 places for 365 days He tells you, “fear not”


“I could have done it at 20, fear told me I was too young, and people wouldn’t take me serious because of my age”


“I waited till I was 30, fear told me I didn’t have enough experience to start”

So I waited.


” At 40 I thought I have had enough experience, fear told me, I shouldn’t try it because I might fail and showed me a lot of people who have tried it and “It didn’t work”


” I brace up at 60, fear told me I am nearing the retirement age, I should wait” So I waited.


“I became determined at 70, fear told me now you are too old, the work is meant for younger people”


“Now at 90, I realize I could DO IT, but the doctor had warned me not to go out”


“How silly I was to listen to fear all along.”

Fear magnifies problem.

It overestimates cost.

 It predicts failures.

 It visualizes troubles.

It envisions obstacles.

Never allow it to rule your life!

You may also be interested in this: TAKE OFF THE LIMITS

3.Get Rid of Excuses.

Are you familiar with the following?

·It will never work in your country.

·You are too young.

·You are too old.

·You are too tall.

·You are too short.

·You are not educated enough.

·You are too educated.

·The time is not right.

·It’s too early.

·It’s too late.

·You don’t have the skills.

·It might fail.

Leave these excuses follow your dreams.

Look around you, how many roads, how many houses have excuses built?

How many awards have excuses won?

How many lives have excuses touched?

How many books have excuses written?

How many songs have excuses sung?

How many jobs have excuses created?

No monuments have been erected for excuses.

Excuses only have the reputation of being the maintenance of paralysis.

People who fail find excuses; people who succeed find reason to.

There are always thousands of excuses not to do what you need to do, none of them is good.

Good excuses are bad habits. Quit them.

Take charge of your future, get rid of excuses.


4.Stand Up And Show Up!

You have amazing potential in you. Stop observing life, start impacting lives. There is something you can do. Do it. Stop analyzing your dream, start actualizing it. Simply believe it. Tell the world, I have something to offer! Stop being a consumer, start being a producer. Today, I have written and published five great books. When people asked me “How did you become a published author” I simply responded “I just stood up and showed up!” I knew I wasn’t meant to read books by other authors all my life. I knew I too have something that is worth reading. I have a message to pass across to my world. So in 2007, without much knowledge about publishing, I published my first book “Your Importance to Your Generation” Today, many lives around the world have been tremendously blessed by my books. You too have got something in you, just wake up, the world is waiting!


Years ago Appleton penned this immortal statement:

“I knew his face the moment that he passed

Triumphant in the thoughtless, cruel throng—

I gently touched his arm—he smiled at me—

He was the Man that Once I Meant to Be!

“Where I had failed, he’d won from life, Success;

Where I had stumbled, with sure feet he stood;

Alike—yet unalike—we faced the world,

And through the stress he found that life was good.

And I? The bitter wormwood in the glass,

The shadowed way along which failures pass!

Yet as I saw him thus, joy came to me—

He was the Man that Once I Meant to Be!

“We did not speak. But in his sapient eyes

I saw the spirit that had urged him on,

The courage that had held him through the fight

Had once been mine. I thought, ‘Can it be gone?’

He felt that unasked question—felt it so

His pale lips formed the one-word answer, ‘No!’

“Too late to win? No! Not too late for me—





About the Author

Dr. Duyilemi Akindele Felix is a renowned  writer and International Inspirational Speaker. He is a popularly sought after Speaker in Corporate Organizations, Schools, Seminars and Churches. He has written a number of inspirational books including “It’s In You” “Pick Up Your Broken dreams” “Wake Up Your Destiny” and others. He spends his time reading, writing and speaking. Reach him on [email protected]

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Feb 8, 2016

In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves.
The process never ends until we die.
 And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.
                                                                        Eleanor Roosevelt


How will you sum up your life at the end?

 A.  Wasted?

  B. Partially lived?

 C. Indifferent?

D.At least?

 E.Fully lived, destiny maximized?

The truth is one day your name will be mentioned as Prof/Dr/ Mr/ Mrs So  So and So(1970-20?), that small (-) will represent the duration of your life. It will represent your days on earth. It will represent how you live your life. It will represent the answer you chose in the above options. Will that dash represent a wasted life or a life fully maximized? The answer depends on the choices you make. Life will always present you alternatives, but you can choose the direction of your life. You can choose a life well lived not in terms of quantity but of quality.

 I was in a meeting when a man was talking about the quality of Jesus’s life, he said, “Jesus accomplished in his 33½ years what Methuselah couldn’t accomplish in his 969 years!” I said “what a profound thought!”  

You see, everybody in life is capable of living an extra-ordinary life. Any failure can become a success. You can drastically transform your life by making extra-ordinary choices. It’s our decision that decides our destiny!

Here are 7 extra-ordinary choices ordinary people make to live extra-ordinary lives.


1.Choose To Fulfill Your Destiny No Matter What!

I heard Lisa Nichols say in one of her interviews “Choose to be a no matter what person” I want you to purpose in your heart that no matter what you are going through, you are going to fulfill the destiny of God for your life. No matter the circumstances of your birth, no matter what the experiences of your growing up were, no matter where you are, no matter where you have been, no matter what your past lifestyles were – no matter what- choose to fulfill your destiny! Choose.


   Choose to go forward in the face of overwhelming odds. Choose to go forward whether you are appreciated or not, whether you are noticed or not and whether the money is there or not

. Choose not to live an ordinary life again!




2.Choose not to look down on yourself


Don’t look down on yourself. It’s true you might have tried before and failed. Your friends and colleagues might not think too highly of you. Your current relationships might have drained your self-esteem. You may be feeling currently empty! Whatever, it is. You are more than this! Don’t allow what is happening around you to destroy you and your purpose. Your value in God’s eyes is far beyond your past performances and the opinions of others around. You are a destiny child.


Reclaim your life. Promise yourself you will not live this way. Promise yourself, you will bless your world with the greatness God has put in you. Forgive your past, embrace a new day. Celebrate your destiny. Let go of your limiting beliefs and thought system.  Choose to come out of your past and enter into the future God has for you! It is a choice you must make!

Recommend book:

It’s In You: How to Get What You Want With What You Have


3.Choose to keep making progress

Efforts add up.

Make a daily commitment to become better. There is always a room for self-improvement.
I have seen people who haven’t CHANGED in the last five years. They simply have repeated same experience for five times. They have grown older but not better!
Don’t live your life that way.
The difference between excellence and mediocrity is just an extra thought as a result of extra knowledge.

Don’t be an old dog that can’t learn new tricks.
Always stay open to new ideas that will help you fulfill your destiny on earth.
Talent in its raw state has no commercial value; it has to be sharpened to become any commercial value.
Yet there are many uncultured talents that pass through our streets daily.

Through daily and constant improvement, talent can become skill and skill can become competence!
Competence is talent in its final state.


There is always a place at the top for a man who is always thinking up, acting up and staying up.
Don’t forget that the enemy of best is ‘better.’ Choose to keep making progress everyday of your life, of course, only in the direction of your destiny.


4.Choose Not to Let A Knocked Down, Knock You Out!


Knocked down 7times, rise up 8times!
Don’t allow a setback to turn to a pack up, don’t turn a comma to a full stop, and refuse to allow refusals, rejections or denials as your fate.
Whatever, keep going. You are on a destiny journey.
Winners don’t quit, quitters don’t win.
King Solomon observes; ‘A righteous man falls seven times, seven times he rises again’ I perceive that is what makes that man righteous!

Persistence is greater than genius

. Choose to keep taking the next step.


Choose To Be a Positive Influence


“You are the salt of the world…” Said Jesus.
About 8years ago I wrote my First Book entitled “Your Importance to Your Generation.” My passion hasn’t changed. The core of that book is how you can use your life to influence your world. Now I like the word “influence” because of its meaning. To influence means to exact a weight upon something. Impact is another word that is closely related.


When Jesus said “you are the salt of the world” He had

the word “influence” in mind. The purpose of salt in the soup is to ‘influence’ it. To add taste! Do you get it? To be an influencer simply means to add “taste” to your world. To add taste to your family; your community, your nation and the world at large.


The Psychologists believe that an average person influences 10 persons a day either on the conscious level or unconsciously. However, the influence could be positive or negative.
The point is: You are already influencing somebody. Is it +, – or ±?
Don’t look at yourself and say what can I do? You see, it’s not much salt that causes much influence in the soup, it’s little.
You have got what it takes to make a difference where you are. Your “little” contribution could make a major difference. Part of your destiny is to influence people positively.
Make a conscious decision to become a positive influence everywhere you go. See the impact we can together make in our world. Don’t forget you have a role to play in your generation.


6.Choose To Participate In Life


Life is not meant to be a TV watched on a screen. Life is meant to be lived, to be involved. And all of us have equal chances. Nobody is overqualified, nobody is under qualified. We all have right to participate in life.

Don’t live your life as though you had less right to live.
Get fully involved!
Put on your jersey, find your own number, locate your own field, start the game!
Don’t go consult others whether you are qualified or not, nobody has that verdict on you. In the game of life you decide to play and that is all.

It’s good to cheer, appreciate, applaud other players; but don’t be carried away to forget to play your own game.
Start the game, take the next pass, dribble your fears, doubts, restraints, constraints and take the ball to the goalpost!

Score some g-o-a-l-s!
Be actively involved in life; participate fully!

7.Choose To Bring Out the Greatness God has put in You.

I love this statement by Marianne Williamson. Please read it carefully:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,

talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you NOT to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other

people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to manifest the glory that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other

people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence

automatically liberates others.

Friend, bring it out. Let your light shine. Choose to bring out the greatness God has put into you. The whole world is excitedly waiting for the beauty of your destiny.


Culled from Chapter Seven of my new book “How to Find Your Life Purpose: Embracing Your Personal Greatness” available here

About The Author

Dr. Duyilemi Akindele Felix is a renowned  writer and International Inspirational Speaker. He is a popularly sought after Speaker in Corporate Organizations, Schools, Seminars and Churches. He has written a number of inspirational books including “It’s In You” “Pick Up Your Broken dreams” “Wake Up Your Destiny” and others.

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