Oct 5, 2021
What is Good Leadership? Felix Duyilemi

What is good leadership?

What is good leadership?


Have you worked with certain leaders before and you loved to stay with them forever if given the chance?


Have you met certain leaders also, and they left you with negative feelings, maybe the way they made you feel or talk to their employees?


Leaders are common, good leadership is uncommon.


What are the elements that make for good leadership? I imbedded them in the acronym L.E.A.D.E.R.S.H.I.P


L: Lead


Good leadership is about leading. If you can get a group of people to move from point A to point B in the spirit of teamwork, harmony, and order, you are providing the example of good leadership.


A good leader must master the art and science of leading. And leading entails clarity of vision, focus, positive mental attitude, enthusiasm, and thinking strategically.


A good leader must constantly lead. When he stops leading, he stops being a leader…

E. Engagement


A good leader must learn to engage with his followers. We must not see him as a man a speaking from mount Sinai. He has to come to the level of the team. Engage them. Ask for their feedback. Learn about what is going on in their lives and family.


Some leaders, because they want to project the image that they are the leaders, walk around with an air of superiority and everybody must cringe at their presence. Their followers are afraid to look into their faces, and they must bow when they appear!


Good leadership is about engaging followers to become the best they can become.

A. Attention


A good leader must pay attention to details. He must know what is going on in the organization he leads. He must be aware. Nothing is so sad than having a leader in an organization who is clueless about the issues in his organization.


As an outstanding leader, your ears must be on the ground.

D. Dedication


A good leader must be dedicated to the vision. He must go the extra mile. It’s his dedication that fuels the energy of his followers to become committed. If the leader is half-committed, he has no moral justification to ask for a full commitment from his followers.


Followers will follow a committed leader.

E: Empathy


John C. Maxwell was credited with the quote, “Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care. ” A leader cannot touch the heads of his followers without first touching their hearts.


Empathy is not just sympathy, it’s learning to put yourself in another person’s shoes. Some poor leaders are just particular about meeting goals with no concerns about their people. Good leadership entails setting aside programs if the occasion demands and focus on people.


Cheerful people build influential organizations. If you put your people first, they will put your organization first.


R: Read


If you can’t READ, don’t venture to LEAD. You have heard it said, “READERS ARE LEADERS.” Good leadership is about good readership. The more a leader learns, the more he knows, the more he knows, the more he grows.


You can’t lead better than your capacity and capability. You can’t lead your followers beyond yourself.


S: Sincerity

A good leader must be honest about his mistakes. Nobody expects a leader to be perfect, but he must be humble enough to admit his mistakes.


Followers are comfortable with a leader who is sincere about his feelings and weaknesses.


Don’t aim to become a perfect leader, aim to be a sincere leader.

H: Humility


Leadership is a privilege. You are privileged to lead. Why? Because some people you lead are better than you. Realizing that you are not the best, but only privileged to lead will give you a sense of humility.


An arrogant leader will self-destruct. Lead with humility and you will never lack following.

I: Intentionality


A good leader must be intentional about leadership. Growth in your organization will not happen by accident. Plan it. A good leader must be intentional about his appearance, his self-development, his leadership style, and where he intends to lead the organization.


P: Planning


Yes, I know there is a time for spontaneity, but planning is one element of good leadership that is so key. Planning will enable a leader to think before he leaps, gathers enough information, and gives his followers enough time.


A good leader should have a short-time plan, a medium-time plan, and a long-time plan. Good planning will lead to excellent performance. If you are not planning to succeed, you are planning to fail.


Which of these elements of good leadership resonates with you? Is there anyone of them will you like to improve upon? Please leave your feedback in the comment box.


You may also be interested in: How to Improve Your LEADERSHIP In One Easy Lesson


About the Author

Felix A. Duyilemi is a Pastor, Leadership, and Greatness Coach. He is the award-winning author of “How to Borrow God’s Brain To Succeed” and  his other international bestsellers are available on BOOKTERIA. When he’s not learning, or writing, he’s out speaking and coaching or taking time out with his family. You can reach him through email at think@duyilemifelix.com.ng


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Sep 16, 2021
How to Improve Your LEADERSHIP In One Easy Lesson


How to Improve Your LEADERSHIP In One Easy Lesson



Are you a leader? Okay. I agree. If you are here reading this article, you must be a leader or aspire to be one.


Leadership is a skill. A learned skill. You can be a great leader or an average leader depending on your learning quotient.


There are many ways to improve your leadership, but I am going to focus on one easy lesson in this article. If you focus on doing this one thing, your leadership capacity will improve.


What’s this lesson?




 “The first duty of love is to listen.” Paul Tillich



As a leader I know it’s tempting to always want to talk. Why? Because you have a healthy value for your opinions. You want to correct this, and adjust that. You want to have the final say on issues to assert your leadership.




But that path will limit your leadership. Average leaders look, good leaders talk but great leaders listen.
When you are talking, you are not knowing more than you already knew. But when you listen, you learn and grow more.


What’s more? You understand your points from a wider angle. You also give the people you lead a sense of dignity and honour.
Your followers feel great when you listen to them.


Here is how to put this lesson to practice:



Be the last person to talk in Meetings.


Listen to all. Let your people debate the matters, offer their opinions and suggestions, look at grey areas in the solutions suggested, and let them own the decisions reached. Then you summarize their various points and point them in the direction to go.

When you allow your people to talk you may be amazed that some of them have better ideas than you do!


“Listening is an art that requires attention over talent, spirit over ego, others over self.” Dean Jackson


Listen to “Common People” People in your organization

By common people, I mean security guards, cleaners, and office assistance. In my opinion, these people know a lot. They might not have academic or cognitive intelligence, they have native intelligence.



One time I was talking with a security guard of a certain company, I was amazed at the volumes of information this guy has about the company. This is a man the CEO will ordinarily never sit down and talk with.



You see, the secrets to your company turnaround might be in the hands of the cleaners or the guy at the gate.
Listen to them. Have regular meetings with the “commoners” in your organization. They will feel great and be willing to share certain concerns with you.


Ask them about their welfare, family, and other things.

 “Listening to others viewpoints may reveal the one thing needed to complete your goals.” D. Ridgley

Listen to Your Family

Your wife and children provide you immediate learning environment. Learn from them.


It’s easy to be carried away by the sound of your voice. It’s when you listen well that you are in the position to help, train, and coach.


When you have the opportunity to choose between listening and talking, choose the former. As your listening capacity increases, your leadership capacity will improve.


“Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you would have rather talked.” Mark Twain

Who do you need to listen to today?


PS: Drop your comments in the comment box. Thank you for coming by.


About the Author

Felix A. Duyilemi is a Pastor, Leadership, and Greatness Coach. He is the award-winning author of “How to Borrow God’s Brain To Succeed” and other international bestsellers. When he’s not learning, or writing, he’s out speaking and coaching or taking time out with his family. You can reach him through email at think@duyilemifelix.com.ng

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Jun 11, 2021
EDWARD DE BONO: What I Learned From Him


Edward De Bono
Edward De Bono: What I Learned From Him

In Memory of Edward De Bono: The Father of Lateral Thinking


Creativity involves breaking out of established patterns in order to look at things in a different way. De Bono


I first heard of Edward De Bono in the year 2012 when I was running my Master’s degree in Behavioural Psychology at the University of Ibadan. The course was on Creative Thinking. It was there I was exposed to sheer volumes of works done by Edward De Bono who held the Da Vinci Professor of thinking Chair at University of Advancing Technology in Tempe, Arizona,US.


Born in Saint Julian’s Bay, Malta by Joseph De Bono, a physician and Josephine, an Irish Journalist, De Bono studied Medicine at the Royal University of Malta before proceeding to Christ Church, Oxford, for his Master’s in Psychology and Physiology. De Bono also had a PhD degree in Medicine from Trinity College, Cambridge.


De Bono popularized the concepts of design, lateral and perceptual thinking. To him, perception is superior to logic. “90% error of thinking is the error of perception not logic” noted De Bono.


When I started my corporate Coaching on Thinking in year 2019, I relied heavily on De Bono written works as reference materials. And I reached out to him to let him know how his crusade on Thinking has inspired me to start teaching on THINKING. He was excited, and we were thinking of possible collaboration before his passing.


Here are 5 major lessons I learned from De Bono, I hope you enjoy it. Let’s go!


1.Thinking is the greatest human activity on earth.


If you can think, you can change your life. De bono emphasized that the school system doesn’t encourage original thinking. In school, you are penalized for being original. If you have a different view, you are labelled a rebel.


Yet, organization’s success depends largely on the capacity to think, generate ideas, questions paradigms, and create different paths to generate solutions.


Many people who go to the school cannot think. The teachers and professors think for them. This is the reason there is a dearth of entrepreneurs in the world today because schools create job seekers, not job creators. He takes the capacity to think to create jobs.


2. Creativity is different from Innovation.


I thought they were both the same until I met De Bono. Creativity involves generating novel ideas, concepts, services and products while innovation is taking the novel ideas to the market. Therefore, you can’t be innovative without being creative. Also, until you take the novel ideas to the market, you have just wasted your creative efforts.


An idea that is developed and put into action is more important than an idea that exists only as an idea. De Bono


3.Everybody can be Creative.


Creativity is not magical, it’s systematical.  Contrary to many beliefs, you don’t need to wait for special inspiration, a sign in the sky or sudden burst of ideas to be creative.


You can deliberately generate creative ideas. And De Bono design tools that systematize thinking process. Some of these tools are:


  • AGO
  • -PMI
  • -DO IT
  • -PISCO
  • -Six Thinking Hats
  • -Six Action Shoes
  • -Six Value Medals


These thinking tools give direction to the brain to think laterally. (If you want to be trained on these or you want to train your organization on thinking tools, reach me at: think@duyilemifelix.com.ng)


4.Thinking can be FUN


Before I started studying the work of De Bono, like many others, I see thinking as hard work. In fact, it was said that some people will rather die than to think. Why? Because many associate thinking with stress. But through thinking tools, everybody can become creative thinkers.


Thinking can be fun and interesting activities when approached with the mind-set that there is no error in making mistakes.


Humor is by far the most significant activity of the human brain. De Bono


5.Simplicity is the hallmark of Creativity.


If you want to be creative, learn to be simple. A lot of people think that by making things complex they are being creative. No! Creativity is about simplicity. In fact, it requires a lot of creativity to make things simple.


Customers are not looking for product description that  requires a dictionary to understand. By making things simple you attract more clients, create better learning experience for students ,write better advertising copy and get a yes on a date!


An expert is someone who has succeeded in making decisions and judgements simpler through knowing what to pay attention to and what to ignore. De Bono


These are some of the few things, I learned from De Bono. He will surely be missed.


PS: Let’s talk. What lessons did you learn from the life and works of De Bono? Share your thoughts in the comment section.

Meet the Author

Felix DuyilemiFelix A. Duyilemi is the international best-selling  and 2020 Reader’s Choice Award -winning Author of “How To Borrow God’s Brain To Succeed” and other best-selling books


He helps businesses and individuals craft compelling stories, expand their concepts of possibilities, and dream bigger dreams. His vision is to impact at least 3 billion people positively..

He’s the principal Consultant at Tremendous Consulting and Pastor Christ Classic Int’l Ministries.


When he’s not learning new concepts, he’s speaking or writing another bestseller.  For training or Workshop, reach him at info@duyilemifelix.com.ng



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Dec 31, 2020
Surviving Betrayal: A New Book by Dr. Albert Oduwole

Surviving BetrayalAbout two years ago, I had a special privilege to interview a renowned Pastor, Inspirational Coach, Author and Business Consultant: Dr. Albert Femi Oduwole. 

In that interview, the upwardly mobile Founding Pastor of Triumphant Assembly, revealed secrets of success in life and ministry. I was excited to hear of his latest book: Surviving Betrayal.

Curious, I decided to reach out to him on the motivation behind this rare, but powerful title. The result was  this interesting interview. Enjoy.

“Surviving betrayal” what was your motivation for writing this book, sir?


The motivation behind this book is my realization that everyone gets betrayed but only a few survive it.


“The question is never ‘will I be betrayed’ but ‘do I know enough to bounce back from betrayal’? – Anonymous.


The truth is, nobody can teach you how to avoid betrayal, you can only be taught how to survive it.


‘BETRAY’. The word is an eighth of an inch above ‘betroth’ in the dictionary, but a world from betroth in life. It’s a weapon found only in the hands of the one you love. Your enemy has no such tool, for only a friend can betray. Betrayal is mutiny. It’s a violation of trust, always an inside job.” – Max Lucado


Nobody is immune from betrayal, it is either you have been betrayed or you are being betrayed or you will be betrayed.
In explaining how betrayal affects you in chapter 3 I wrote,


“It was a mistake,” you said. But the cruel thing was, it felt like the mistake was mine, for trusting you.” David Levithan (The Lover’s Dictionary).


Betrayal leads to self-doubt. You will keep wondering on why you have been so ‘seemingly’ stupid enough to have trusted and failed to discern the disloyalty.

Perhaps you’ve heard the story about the little swallow. It was covering one eye with its wing and crying bitterly. An owl flew by and asked, “Little bird, what’s wrong?” The swallow pulled away its wing and showed a gash where once it had an eye. “Now I understand,” hooted the owl, blinking, “You’re crying because the crow pecked out your eye!” “No,” replied the bird sadly, “I’m not crying because the crow pecked out my eye; I’m crying because I let him.”


You are likely to have forgotten that hindsight is always perfect and that people wiser, greater and more spiritual than you have also experienced betrayal at one point or the other.

What are the major highlights of in this book?


This book gives insights into the following and more:


  •  Understanding betrayal
    Here I explained the 5 kinds of betrayal.
  • 5 worst betrayal stories of all times
  • Why betrayal hurts
  • 5 reasons why betrayal hurts, why many keep crying, lamenting etc for years after the act.
  •  Why people betray
  • 10 various reasons why people betray from nurture to nature and everything in between Surviving betrayal
  • 3 definite proven tools to overcome betrayal
  • What to do if you are the one that betrayed
  • Then there’s a chapter for them that are the one that betrayed

WHENEVER I ANNOUNCE the topic of this book, people are always interested. They are quick to point out they have been betrayed before. I find it amusing that hardly do people confess they have betrayed others. Betrayal has two faces!


If many alive have been betrayed, it also means betrayers are equally many; hence the reason for this chapter. It is always great to study men that have walked the ways we are tending to trend and see how they end up.


The good book says
‘Those who betray their own friends leave a legacy of abuse to their children.’ Job 17:5.


Is betrayal a normal experience life?


It is so common. Here’s a powerful quotation by Sherrilyn Kenyon in Invincible.


“Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It’s what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens. Don’t let them take that from you.”


/be·tray·al bəˈtrāəl, bēˈtrāəl/ noun.
Betrayal is the action of betraying one’s country, a group, or a person. Synonyms: disloyalty, treachery, bad faith, faithlessness, falseness, duplicity, deception, double-dealing; breach of faith, breach of trust, stab in the back; double-cross, sell-out; perfidy.


Betrayal is everywhere. Betrayal in relationships. Betrayal in workplace. Betrayal in family. Betrayal in ministry. There are tales of acts of betrayal strewn all over and its stings hurt many years after it has taken place. Betrayal is as old as the earth though there seems to be greater increase in recent times.


What should readers expect from reading this book?


It is my attempt to make sure that betrayal does not destroy you. As I wrote in one of the chapters :


WHATEVER YOU COME in contact with has a way of rubbing off on you. Like some specially-concocted perfumes, their fragrance just wouldn’t wear off. They last and last and seem to ooze from your very breath. In the same way, having been betrayed, if great care is not taken; betrayal can leave negative indelible marks on your life.
Mimicking the pattern of Paul the Apostle’s letters; ‘I beseech you therefore brethren, not to allow betrayal do the under-listed to you’.


In another chapter I explained,

Do not let betrayal destroy you. It has destroyed many marital dreams, political ambitions, etc. Betrayal can either leave you bitter or better. The choice is yours. Even if betrayal has devastated your past or present, it must not be allowed to destroy your future. It’s time to draw the line between a betrayed past and a better future.
Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.


Thank you, sir


You are welcome.

This book is available on Amazon, order your copy today, HERE

Felix Duyilemi

Meet the Interviewer

Dr. Felix A. Duyilemi is the international best-selling  and 2020 Reader’s Choice Award -winning Author of “How To Borrow God’s Brain To Succeed” and other best-selling books


He helps businesses and individuals craft compelling stories, expand their concepts of possibilities, and dream bigger dreams. His vision is to impact at least 3 billion people for time and eternity.


When he’s not learning new concepts, he’s speaking or writing another bestseller.  Reach him at info@duyilemifelix.com.ng

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