Aug 16, 2023
How Your Thoughts Create Your Reality

How Your Thoughts Create Your Reality

As a coach, pastor, psychologist and researcher who has studied the power of thoughts for over 15 years, I can tell you with confidence that your thoughts have a profound impact on your reality.

In fact, there is a growing body of scientific evidence to support this claim. For example, one study published in the journal Psychological Science found that people who had positive thoughts about themselves were more likely to succeed in a challenging task than those who had negative thoughts. The study participants were asked to complete a difficult puzzle. Those who had positive thoughts about their ability to solve the puzzle persisted and eventually succeeded, while those who had negative thoughts about their ability gave up.

Another study, published in the journal Nature, found that our thoughts can actually change the structure of our brains. The study participants were divided into two groups. One group was asked to think positive thoughts about themselves, while the other group was asked to think negative thoughts about themselves. After 12 weeks, the researchers found that the brains of the people who had thought positive thoughts had changed in a way that was associated with greater resilience and optimism.

These studies and many others suggest that our thoughts are not just passive observers of our reality, but they are active participants in creating our reality. In other words, our thoughts literally shape our reality.

So, if you want to create a better reality for yourself, you need to start by changing your thoughts. Here are some tips for changing your thoughts:

  1. Become aware of your thoughts. The first step to changing your thoughts is to become aware of them. Pay attention to the thoughts that you have throughout the day. Are they mostly positive or negative? Are they helpful or harmful?
  2. Challenge your negative thoughts. When you have a negative thought, ask yourself if it is really true. Is there any evidence to support it? Is there another way to look at the situation?
  3. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Once you have challenged a negative thought, replace it with a positive one. This may seem difficult at first, but it gets easier with practice.
  4. Practice gratitude. Gratitude is a powerful emotion that can help to shift your focus  from negative to the positive. Make a habit of practicing gratitude every day. This could involve writing in a gratitude journal, taking a few minutes to reflect on the things you are grateful for, or simply saying thank you to someone who has made a positive impact on your life
  5. Focus on the present moment. It is easy to get caught up in negative thoughts about the past or the future. However, the only moment that we have control over is the present moment. When you find yourself dwelling on negative thoughts, focus on the present moment and all the good things that are happening right now.

Changing your thoughts takes time and effort, but it is worth it. When you change your thoughts, you change your reality. Start today and begin to create the life that you want.

I hope this blog post has given you some insights into the power of thoughts and how you can use them to create a better reality for yourself. If you have any questions or would like to learn more, please feel free to contact me.


  • Achor, S. (2010). The happiness advantage: The seven pillars of positive psychology that fuel success and resilience. New York, NY: Crown Business.
  • Fredrickson, B. L. (2009). Positivity: Groundbreaking research reveals how positive emotions can change your life. New York, NY: Crown Publishers.
  • Seligman, M. E. P. (2002). Authentic happiness: Using the new positive psychology to realize your potential for lasting fulfillment. New York, NY: Free Press.


About the Author

Felix A. Duyilemi is a Greatness and Leadership Coach who specializes in helping people create extraordinary results by becoming aware of their infinite potential. He is the creator of  1000X Results Coaching Program, a Coaching Program designed to skyrocket your results.


Felix A. Duyilemi is the author of the Award-winning book, “How to Borrow God’s Brain to Succeed” and other top-rated books and has giving more than  5000 talks on subjects ranging from Success Ideation, Mindset, Leadership and Potential Maximization. His latest book is “How to Monetize Your Brain.”


When he’s not learning, or coaching or speaking, he’s at home enjoying the company of his amazing family!

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