Oct 27, 2020
How To Handle Rejections

How to handle REJECTIONS

How to handle REJECTIONS

No matter what people tell you, your words and ideas can change the world.” – Robin Williams


How does that word sound? I remember when my high school Mathematics teacher looked down on me, and disqualified me from participating in the major inter-school quiz competition.

I felt the pain. I looked stupid before my mate. And I vowed to become the best at Mathematics! Instead of turning her rejection to depression; I turned it to an inspiration that eventually made me  one of the best at Mathematics in our class.

From Albert Einstein to Oprah Winfrey to Les Brown to Billy Graham; great people are familiar with rejections.

Stephen King’s manuscript was rejected more than 30 times by different publishers. He almost gave up but for the encouragement of his wife. Today, Stephen has sold more than 350 million books!

Jack Canfied and Mark Victor Hansen’s Chicken Soup for the Soul was rejected 300 times by the publishers. Today, they have sold over 500 million copies of CSFS series!

Walt Disney the enigma behind Mickey Mouse and Disney world got 302 rejections before he received a yes.

Colonel Sanders the founder of KFC got 1009 Nos before he got a yes.

The list goes on…

These men and women rejected rejections, and that was why they succeeded.

“I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat.”

– Sylvester Stallone

How you handle REJECTIONS matter. I have seen people who have refused to stand before people and speak because the first time they attempted to speak, they were laughed at. Some have refused to write or sing because of past rejections.

In this article, I will share with you three strategies to handling rejections:


1. Don’t Internalize it.

Rejection can disappoint you, depress you and may even stop you in your tracks… learn not to take rejection so personally… if you’re honest with yourself and believe in your work, others will too.     

Bev Jozwiak


Never allow rejections to get into your heart. “Externalize” it, don’t internalize it. If you allow the words or thoughts to keep playing in your mind, you may become paralyzed and afraid to stand up and get on.


Never forget this: nothing outside of you has the power to stop you in life.


2. Keep Turning!

I once read that the formula for handling rejections is, SWSWSWSW. It means that if you go out with your ideas, Some Will buy it, Some Won’t, So What? Someone else’s Waiting!


I love the story of David in the Bible when he said he could kill Goliath, his brother, Eliab, called him names, “You this little brat!” But the Bible says , “David turned to another person, and he kept turning till he got the attention of King Saul.”


That is what you need to do. If one person rejects you, turn to another person, and keep turning!


3. Don’t Reject Yourself!


I heard that the first time Benjamin Disraeli first attempted to speak in the parliament, he was laughed to scorn. But he said, “You may laugh as much as you can, but one day you will watch me speak before the world.” ( Paraphrased)


I love to tell my audience in my live seminars, “If people reject you, don’t join them to reject yourself!”

If you failed, dust yourself up, remember the lessons ,forget the details, and keep on moving!


Always bear in mind that if you give yourself opportunity to learn, fail, relearn and keep learning, nothing can stop you in life.


Every rejection is incremental payment on your dues that in some ways will be translated back into your work.     

James Lee Burke


PS: Thanks for dropping by. Join the conversation, what strategies have helped you to effectively handle rejections? Share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

About the Author

Felix A. Duyilemi is the international best-selling author of “How To Borrow God’s Brain To Succeed” and other best-selling books

He helps businesses and individuals craft compelling stories, expand their concepts of possibilities, and dream bigger dreams.

When he’s not learning new concepts, he’s speaking or writing. Reach him at [email protected]

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Oct 6, 2020
5 Habits of Highly Successful People

5 Habits of Highly Successful People by  Felix A. Duyilemi

“Sucessful people do immediately what ordinary people do eventually” 

~ Felix Duyilemi

In this article, I will share with you, 5 Habits of Highly Successful People. I know success means different things to the different people. To some it’s more money, to others it’s freedom to travel, write a book, or fulfill a divine destiny.

One common agreement about success is about accomplishing a worthy objective. Earl Nightingale defined success as a progressive realization of worthy objectives.

Whatever success means to you, I believe you are here to accomplish a purpose. And no matter your line of interest, there are people who have done what you are now trying to do.

These successful people have left a path that you can follow to achieve your own unique success.

In this article, I will share with you, 5 Habits of Highly Successful People.

Are you ready?

1. They Know Where They Are Going

Earl Nightingale wrote, in the Strangest Secret, “Those who have goals succeed, because they know where they are going.” Successful people know where they are going.

They have goals.

Goals serve like GPS that help successful people navigate their path through life.

Goals define tools, people, skills, and draw the opportunities they need to succeed.

On the other hand, unsuccessful people drift through life. They have no aim, no worthy objectives, no purpose or vision.

If you know where you are going, you have at least 90% of getting there, but if you don’t know where you are going, you have zero chance of getting there.

2. They Value Knowledge.

“A reader lives a thousand years before he dies…The man who never reads lives only one. ” George Martin.

Successful people value knowledge. They pay for information. Attend seminars. They do everything possible to stay on top of their games.

I once heard a billionaire talk, and said before he started his business in the UK, he spent 2 years to read! Average people don’t have time to read.

People like Bishop David Oyedepo, Warren Buffett, Bill Gates, Anthony Robbins place high premium on acquiring vital knowledge. Warren Buffett was quoted to read at least 5 hours every day.

3. They Have Mentors

“A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope inside yourself ” Oprah Winfrey.

If you want to go far you need to learn from those who have gone farther. Mentors see beyond your fears and could help you see possibilities beyond your projection.

Jack Canfied wouldn’t have been able to write and develop, “Chicken Soup for the Soup Empire” without the support and assistance of Victor Hansen.

I agree with John C. Maxwell, “One of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others cannot see and to help them navigate a course to their destination”

Successful people are smart to look for people smarter than they are.

4 . They Maintain Balance

“What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and loses his soul” Jesus Christ

Successful people maintain balance. You don’t want to pursue career success at the expense of your family, health and relationships. The goal of life is balance.

Successful people create priorities, order and harmony in their lives.

5. Help Others to Succeed

“You can get anything you want in life, if you help others to get what they want.” Zig Ziglar.

“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” Winston Churchill.

If you want to be great, forget greatness and start serving people. Like Robert Kiyosaki said, “Change your FOCUS, from making money to serving more people. Serving more people make you more money. ”

PS: How has any of these habits helped you in life? What other habits have helped you to become successful in your career/business? Leave your thoughts in the comment box.

Felix A. Duyilemi is the world’s #1 Greatness and Leadership Coach who specializes in helping people create extraordinary results by becoming aware of their infinite potential. He is the creator of  1000X Results Coaching Program, a Coaching Program designed to skyrocket your results.

Felix A. Duyilemi is the author of the Award-winning book, “How to Borrow God’s Brain to Succeed” and other top-rated books and has giving more than  5000 talks on subjects ranging from Success Ideation, Mindset, Leadership and Potential Maximization. His latest book is “How to Monetize Your Brain.”

When he’s not learning, or coaching or speaking, he’s at home enjoying the company of his amazing family!

Reach him at [email protected]


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